no lies, just love: Archive

Sep 25th

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Sep 25th

brb saving this to tell my future children

Anonymous: Do you believe in saving sex for Marriage?
John Green: I can’t answer that question unless I answer the question of what constitutes marriage. And none of the definitions I have for marriage really hold up to scrutiny:
 1. A marriage is a legal contract. But for the vast majority of human history, marriages were not legal contracts, so are we to say that all those people—from the Prophet Muhammad to Mary and Joseph—weren’t really married?
 2. A marriage is a life-long monogamous romantic relationship. Well, this is patently untrue. 40% of marriages end in divorce; is it immoral for those people to have had sex during their marriages simply because their marriages later ended? If I’m single, meet a girl in Las Vegas, marry her, have sex with her, and divorce her the next day—is that somehow less ethically problematic than two unmarried people in a committed relationship having sex?
 The question is further complicated by the fact that many people in the United States are legally prohibited from ever marrying. So if you argue that one must always wait for marriage, you end up arguing that gay people in New York can have sex after they get married, but that gay people in Alabama will never be able to have sex, at least until and unless gay marriage becomes legal in Alabama. 
Which brings me to the biggest issue of all: To answer your question, I must not only define marriage (which turns out to be really hard to define); I must also define sex. What is sex? Is it actions that can result in procreation? Is it any kind of sexual intimacy? If so, is kissing sex? Is hugging sex if it happens to result in arousal?
 We’ve created this aura around virginity as if one’s virginity is a real and tangible thing—but of course it isn’t. Sex and virginity are socially constructed concepts. Are you a virgin if you engage in oral sex? Are you a virgin if you’ve kissed a girl? Are you a virgin if it was just the tip? Are you a virgin if your hymen breaks from tampon-insertion?
 In my opinion, our obsessive focus on virginity and sexual purity doesn’t serve anyone. Losing one’s virginity is not an event; it’s a process. Similarly, weddings are events, and signing your marriage license is an event, but marriages are not events. They are processes.
 So no, I don’t think it’s inherently wrong to have sex before marriage, because I don’t know what sex means, and I don’t know what marriage means. I think people should feel empowered to make their own decisions about their own bodies in thoughtful and open conversations with their romantic partners.
 And use condoms. The End.

Sep 25th

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Sep 18th

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Sep 18th

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evermore: Everclear | Santa Monica allday

Sep 18th

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Sep 12th

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Just watched True blood season finale.

jbo39: dashboardsarecool: Tara and Jesus are dead Steve Newlin is back, and he’s a vampire Pam Eric and Bill Sookie finally killed Debbie Nan is dead Russell is back I don’t think Tara is dead. But THIS i don’t think Tara is dead either, but other than that, this is entirely true.

Sep 12th

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one reason i'm a crazy cat lady already:

my boyfriend was trying to tell me that his cat loves him more than my cat loves me. i got really upset and made him stop talking about it, because he almost convinced me that it was true.

Sep 12th

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For the husband who told his wife I love you one...

pixie-poison: I’m going to cry

Sep 12th

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Sep 12th

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plasticteacups: holy shit, true blood was insane. I have no words. dude! i was just saying this. it was so crazy, i don’t even know what’s happening in my head right now.

Sep 12th

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I'm a normal boy that sank when I fell overboard.:... →

-boyinterrupted: Anonymous hate mail on Tumblr is pretty pointless if you think about it. If you send anonymous hate then you’re just a pussy for not being brave enough to be up-front and real. The person who posts the hate-mail is a lot stronger for not being afraid to embarrass themselves by posting the hate and… this kid knows what’s up

Sep 12th

holy fucking True Blood finale. holy mother...

all these things happened. there were so many things going on. oh my god. someone talk to me about it? holy fucking fuck.

Sep 12th

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